Fairy Houses

I have always wanted to be like a fairy or pixie. Are they the same thing? I am guessing there are differences but that has no affect on my thoughts. Cute little angelic things with wings. I find myself in a situation that has made me consider building a life size fairy house and living in it.

Bill may not be too impressed, especially with the name, but he will come around. Eventually. I hope. A secret garden with a secret fairy house is bound to attract other real fairies don’t ya think? I think he may like that part. Picture this but BIGGER….

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Cute right? How about this one…

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Ok I like this one too but it may be a little on the creepy side. What do you think?

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Something about it attracts me but gives me the willies at the same time.

So now that my decision is final I have a few more things to work out. I will be needing to have a beautiful garden to really get the fairies coming in. Bill will have that covered because he is just amazing like that. Research will need to be done though because I do not want naughty fairies, I want the helpful ones that like to cook and clean. I should be able to get all of that info on Google. You can find everything on Google.

Since I won’t have fairy wings, I will still need to get around. Which kind of vehicle would be most appropriate for a fairy wanna-be? A beetle bug? So much to think about and so little time. What part of the world would be best for fairies? I hope it is close to my job. I am not big on long commutes. Road trips are one thing, but just to go back and forth to work is not happening. Maybe once I have earned my wings but not just yet.

 

To Jog, Walk or Crawl? That is the Question.

This post is being written for absolutely everybody no matter your size, age or sex. I was watching the news last night and what I heard really helped put things into perspective for me. (I know, I know. The news is usually full of depressing shit but this part was actually helpful.)

How many of you can find five minutes a day to do something that will reduce your risk of death by 45%? I am thinking just about everybody. Even me. Sometimes the thought of doing anything healthy is overwhelming and just seems useless to someone like me. I am 41, overweight, out of shape and am a smoker. But I bet I can find five minutes to change my life.

When I get home from my job I am usually exhausted. I am on my feet on cement floors the entire shift, but obviously I need more. So the news said that if we can run for five minutes, FIVE minutes then we can reduce our risk of dying of heart disease significantly. This certainly helps the overwhelming part. I did listen closely to the fine print and they did say that if you can’t run, then jogging or walking also works. I may have to crawl in the beginning, but I will eventually be able to walk.

So anyway, I am going to give this an honest effort. Who is with me? We can all do this. Every single one of us. Maybe I will take progress selfies. This makes it so easy, it would be just wrong to NOT give it a shot.

How Depression Changed My Life

(The below article was one of the many that I had published on Yahoo. It brings back very sad memories of where my life was at on 5/21/2012. I keep referring to a blog, but I have no idea which one I was writing in at that time. I was in a bad place.)

 

How Depression Changed My Life

For all of you that may know me, or at least knew me before one year ago knew me as being a very happy, bubbly, sociable and outgoing person. I live and breathe for my husband and children. They are my life.

If I was to meet someone new today, they may describe me as a recluse, home body, anti-social and quite possibly a snob. I prefer the old me and have been working very hard to get back to that.

This article will focus on my life in the past year, but let me give you a brief description of my life prior to this. Mother of two, married over twenty years, one child with a serious medical condition, one child with serious injuries, a husband that is disabled and a brother that commit suicide.

I was diagnosed with severe depression. All I did was sleep. I was seeing my regular doctor, my psychiatrist and my therapist on a regular basis. These are the only times I left my house. I didn’t want to see or talk to anyone. This in itself saddens me because I have some very amazing friends out there and some of them were also going through their own tough times and I couldn’t be there for them. It was killing me.

So part of my therapy was to get out of bed and try to focus on something. I went on the computer. This is when I discovered all of the mindless Facebook games. Not only did I focus on them, I was obsessed with them. It was awful and I knew it. I kept telling my therapist that these are games that children would play. I am an adult woman and couldn’t stop.

Through therapy I was now turning my gaming energy into blogging. This seemed better. Blogging was starting to be beneficial. The more that I would write about my feelings and what I was going through, the more followers I would get. And some of them would reply and offer amazing advice that would really get the wheels in my head turning.

Let’s sit back and look at the big picture for the past year. I wasn’t able to leave my house, I was very depressed, I wasn’t earning a living to support my family, I couldn’t pay my bills and there was nothing I could do about any of it. This adds to the depression. I spend all of my time in my room, so there goes that happy family dynamic that we once had. I was failing as a wife and mother, miserably.

In the meantime I lost my medical insurance. No medical insurance and no income lead to no more doctors. I am on my own. What am I supposed to do? Where is my therapist? I need her so badly right now. I need to sit back, take a deep breath and try to remember everything that she has been telling me for almost a year.

Focus. Breathe. Write. Work through my emotions. Look at the big picture. Alright, I can do this. I need to do this. I don’t have a choice. Focus, focus on what? Alright then just breathe. Go to your blog and just focus on writing about your emotions and just take slow deep breaths while doing it until you come up with something. What have you learned about yourself in the past year? I have learned that I am a philanthropist. I have also learned that I love to write. I have also learned that if I am to get my family back on our feet I need to start my own business of some sort. I need to be home to take care of everyone and I need to earn an income while doing it.

My run with depression is far from over, but by staying focused and practicing the techniques that my therapist taught me, I can manage it for the most part. Knowledge is power. And I plan on being the most powerful woman in America.

The Games We Play – Part 4 of 4

 

The Man’s Ego

This is old and still so true today. Men need to have their ego stroked. Whether it is the size of their “member” or how they use it – if we tell them how big it is or that they use it in ways that drive you mad (in a good way) then they will be very happy and be even more eager to please you. Even if “it” is on the small side, we shouldn’t point it out. Tell them that it is the perfect size for you. Any bigger and it would hurt you or you wouldn’t be able to fit so much in your mouth. No matter what you say, make sure it is positive. If a man’s ego is not boosted enough he will be unable to perform at top notch. Proven fact. If he is trying to prove himself then he won’t be focusing on pleasing you as much.

The Games We Play – Part 3 of 4

 

 

Role Playing

How many of you like to role play? Now I ask how many of you have ever brought it into the bedroom? If you have no idea if this is something that your partner would ever be interested in, just ask. At some point, over coffee or dinner, just come out and say, “Don’t you wish that you could be my boss/teacher in the bedroom?” Wait for the response – if they say no, then try another scenario. Talk about what they might like, and then say, “well I have wondered what it would be like to be a prisoner and you my prison guard.” Whatever role you think they may like, just throw it out there. If they are into it than you may be trying it out that night. If they are a little unsure, than it may be a while – but trust me – it will come up eventually. They remember, just sometimes need the chance to make it look like it was their idea.

The Games We Play – Part 2 of 4

The initiator and the tease –

Some couples have the one person that is always the one to initiate. Being the tease but will very rarely initiate is ok – as long as you are letting your partner know that you want them in other ways. Also let them know that you are not comfortable climbing into bed and just starting things outright. There are usually signs that your partner is in the mood without them coming out and saying it. Like when she lays in bed and backs up into you and wiggles her tush a little into your member. Or have you feel her freshly shaven leg while wearing something a little bit more romantic than normal. I use these examples in a point of view as the woman being the non-initiator – because 9 times out of 10 this is the situation. The important thing is to accept your roles and learn to love them. If you take time to truly know your partner than you should be able to read between the lines.

The Games We Play – Part 1 of 4

 

Do you and your partner talk dirty in the bedroom? It can be very healthy and bring out some erotic feelings that you didn’t even know you had.

Are you asking yourself what you would even say? Well, I will give you a little tidbit in just a moment. But just keep in mind that this kind of talk will differ from couple to couple. Also keep in mind that this is bedroom talk for fantasy only. You can pretend that it is real at the time, but 99% of the time if you try to act on certain parts of it – your love life would turn into total disaster. Also there are times that one person in the relationship might not be in the mood to do this each and every time that you make love. But on those hot nights that you are both are really into it you could say something that suits you, maybe something like, “Wouldn’t it be nice to have someone here tonguing your clit while I am penetrating you? Or maybe having someone in the room to watch while you make crazy love – make them wish that they could join in.” Like I said, those are just tidbit ideas and every couple will come up with their own little fantasy.

Try it out and send me some feedback.

Does She Feel Desirable?

Make your woman think that she is the most beautiful, desirable woman in the world.

If you can conquer this it will solve a lot of problems that come up in relationships. I can’t say enough about compliments. They matter! Notice things about her and let her know how much you like it. Do this without expecting anything in return. This matters too. If you get upset that you don’t get a roll in the hay every time you say something nice then your words won’t mean much after a while. Trust me on this one. If she asks you if you like her outfit, and you really don’t, then just say something like, not as much as I love the way those blue jeans were snug on your ass yesterday!! It is ok not to like something, but there are nice ways of saying it. But, if you do like it, then tell her why. Let her know that the way her top makes her breasts look makes you want to throw her down on the bed before she gets out the door.

Go up to her at a time that it would be impossible to make love and just rub yourself up behind her and whisper something very naughty in her ear. Something that you know she loves and tell her if you were alone that you would be doing that all night long.

Don’t just do this for a couple of weeks and call it good. Make this a new routine. These are words that will only take one or two minutes out of your day but will last a lifetime to her. She wants to know that you not only love her, but that you want her too.

I Work SO Hard for that G-Spot O

As a woman, do you get frustrated to the fact that your man can orgasm in four minutes flat and you are lucky if you do at all?

First of all don’t blame them. I know that you do not want to hear that, but it is true. Take it as a compliment that your man can’t hold himself back any longer. But having a g-spot orgasm can be very difficult for some women. Some can achieve this very easily. Of course it is always good to try new positions, trying to get just the right spot. But keep it fun. If you are stressing out over it or making it more of a job than fun, then even if you hit the right spot it won’t be that great. But I do believe that a woman deserves to have an orgasm every time, just like their partner. But this can be a clitoral one. Let your man use his tongue to get you off then immediately penetrate you as you are writhing on the bed – don’t wait for the quivering to stop. It is amazing. Of course there are other ways, but as long as you are getting off as often as he is it will at least help.

Oral Sex

 

Of course this is a personal preference for every couple. But if you choose to do it – don’t be one sided. If you receive, then you should give. I could write hundreds of articles on this topic, but the bottom line is if you are a monogamous couple then go ahead and do it. Almost a guaranteed orgasm if done right. Practice makes perfect. If you are looking for specific information on this subject please send me a message. I will write specific article to try and cover these particular subjects.

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